Love Does Not Mean Calling Sin Good
“Have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather expose them.” — Ephesians 5:11, NKJV
One of the most difficult challenges facing the church today is learning how to distinguish between genuine Christian love and a false kind of love that refuses to confront sin. We live in a culture that often defines love as unconditional approval. To disagree with someone is considered hateful. To identify sin is considered judgmental. To call people to repentance is sometimes viewed as intolerant.
But the Bible gives us a different picture of love.
Jesus was full of grace and truth (John 1:14). He welcomed sinners, ate with those whom religious people rejected, forgave those who came to Him, and showed compassion to the broken. Yet Jesus never demonstrated love by pretending that sin was harmless. He told the woman caught in adultery, “Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more” (John 8:11). His grace did not excuse her sin; it offered her freedom from it.
The church must be careful not to confuse accepting people with accepting everything people do.
The Church Is in Danger of Tolerating What Scripture Condemns
Paul confronted the church in Corinth because it was tolerating serious sexual immorality among its members. He wrote:
“And you are puffed up, and have not rather mourned” (1 Corinthians 5:2, NKJV).
The problem was not simply that sin existed in the church. Sin will always exist among people who are growing in Christ. The problem was that the church had become proud of its tolerance.
Paul's concern was not that the church had failed to be loving. It was that the church had misunderstood love.
Love does not celebrate what destroys people.
Love does not remain silent when sin is destroying families, marriages, children, churches, or the faith of individuals.
Love does not say, “I accept you,” while secretly allowing someone to remain enslaved to something that is destroying them.
The church must ask itself an uncomfortable question: What things are clearly condemned in Scripture that we are in danger of tolerating in the name of love and acceptance?
Sexual Immorality
The Bible speaks clearly about sexual immorality. Yet this is one of the areas where the church is increasingly tempted to remain silent.
Scripture condemns adultery, fornication, incest, prostitution, and other forms of sexual immorality. Jesus also addressed lust, declaring that the problem is not merely the physical act but the condition of the heart (Matthew 5:27–28).
The church must also be willing to address pornography. Although the Bible was written long before modern technology, the principles of lust, impurity, exploitation, and sexual immorality clearly apply. Pornography is not harmless entertainment. It trains the mind to view people as objects and often destroys marriages, intimacy, integrity, and spiritual sensitivity.
We must also be willing to talk about cohabitation and sexual relationships outside of marriage. These topics may be uncomfortable, but discomfort is not a reason to ignore Scripture.
At the same time, the church must be careful not to make sexual sin the only sin it confronts. Sexual immorality is condemned in Scripture, but so are greed, pride, gossip, hatred, oppression, dishonesty, and hypocrisy.
The church must not be selective in its outrage.
Homosexual Practice and Gender Confusion
These are among the most controversial topics in the church today, and many churches avoid discussing them altogether because they fear being labeled hateful.
But Christians cannot allow the culture to determine what the Bible says.
The Bible's teaching about sexual relationships is rooted in God's design for humanity from creation. Scripture consistently presents sexual intimacy within the covenant of marriage between a man and a woman. The New Testament also directly identifies homosexual practice as contrary to God's revealed will (Romans 1:24–27; 1 Corinthians 6:9–11; 1 Timothy 1:9–10).
The church must not pretend these passages do not exist.
At the same time, biblical truth must never be used as an excuse for cruelty. Every person is created in the image of God. Every person deserves dignity, compassion, and respect. Every person is a sinner in need of the grace of Christ.
The church must hold two truths together:
We must not call sin righteousness.
We must not treat sinners as though they are beyond the reach of grace.
The same church that speaks against sexual sin must also speak against hatred, bullying, cruelty, and contempt. We cannot claim to defend biblical morality while violating the biblical command to love our neighbors.
Truth without love becomes cruelty.
Love without truth becomes deception.
Jesus calls His church to both.
Abortion and the Value of Human Life
Another difficult topic is abortion.
The Bible does not use the modern word “abortion,” but it speaks repeatedly about the value of human life, God's knowledge of people before birth, and His involvement in the womb.
David wrote:
“You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother's womb” (Psalm 139:13, NKJV).
The prophet Jeremiah said that God knew him before he was born (Jeremiah 1:5). The unborn John the Baptist is described as responding to the presence of Jesus while still in the womb (Luke 1:41–44).
The church must not treat human life as though it has value only after birth.
Yet even here, the church must speak with compassion. People have faced pregnancies resulting from abuse, medical crises, poverty, fear, abandonment, and terrible circumstances. The church must not merely proclaim a moral position and then abandon people who are struggling.
If we believe life is sacred, then we must support mothers, fathers, children, families, adoption, crisis pregnancy ministries, and practical assistance.
Biblical truth must be accompanied by biblical compassion.
Racism and Partiality
Some sins are tolerated because they are socially respectable.
The Bible does not allow that.
James writes:
“If you show partiality, you commit sin” (James 2:9, NKJV).
The church must not tolerate racism, prejudice, or discrimination. We cannot claim to love God while despising people made in His image.
Jesus commanded His followers to love their neighbors. The gospel breaks down the barriers that human beings build between one another.
The church should never excuse racial hatred as “just the way some people are.” Neither should it tolerate ethnic prejudice because it is hidden behind political, cultural, or religious language.
If we love Christ, we must reject every form of contempt toward people created in God's image.
Abuse and the Misuse of Authority
Perhaps one of the most serious sins the church has sometimes tolerated is abuse.
Abuse can be physical, sexual, emotional, spiritual, or financial. It can happen in families, marriages, churches, schools, and institutions.
Sometimes victims are told to remain silent in the name of forgiveness. Sometimes abusers are protected because they are respected, wealthy, powerful, or influential.
That is not biblical Christianity.
Jesus strongly warned those who harm the vulnerable (Matthew 18:6). God repeatedly condemns those who exploit the weak and oppress the powerless.
Forgiveness does not mean pretending abuse did not happen.
Forgiveness does not mean removing all consequences.
Forgiveness does not mean placing a victim back into danger.
The church must protect the vulnerable and hold abusers accountable.
Silence is not always love.
Sometimes silence protects the sinner and abandons the victim.
Greed and Materialism
The church may be willing to condemn certain sins while tolerating greed.
Jesus said:
“Take heed and beware of covetousness” (Luke 12:15, NKJV).
Paul called covetousness idolatry (Colossians 3:5).
Yet materialism is often admired in the church. Wealth can be confused with God's blessing. Success can be mistaken for spiritual maturity. People may be respected because of what they own rather than because of their character.
Jesus warned that it is possible to gain the whole world and lose one's soul (Mark 8:36).
The church must be willing to ask whether its pursuit of comfort, wealth, entertainment, and possessions has become another form of idolatry.
Gossip, Slander, and Division
Many Christians would never commit adultery or steal money, but they will freely destroy someone's reputation through gossip.
The Bible repeatedly condemns slander, malicious speech, and the spreading of rumors.
Paul warned against those who are “whisperers” and “backbiters” (Romans 1:29–30). James compared the tongue to a fire that can set an entire forest ablaze (James 3:5–6).
Churches have been destroyed by gossip.
Families have been destroyed by gossip.
Friendships have been destroyed by gossip.
And sometimes people who would never openly commit a scandalous sin feel completely justified in destroying another person's reputation through words.
We cannot call gossip “concern.”
We cannot call slander “telling the truth.”
We cannot call cruelty “being honest.”
The words we speak reveal the condition of our hearts.
Anger and Hatred
Jesus taught that hatred and murderous anger are serious matters.
“Whoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment” (Matthew 5:22, NKJV).
The church must not tolerate hatred simply because it is directed toward a political opponent, an ethnic group, an opposing denomination, or someone with different beliefs.
It is possible to defend truth while becoming hateful.
It is possible to oppose false teaching while treating people with contempt.
It is possible to be right in our doctrine and wrong in our spirit.
The church must never forget that Jesus commanded us to love our enemies.
Hypocrisy and Religious Pride
Jesus spoke more harshly to religious hypocrisy than to many obvious sinners.
The Pharisees were outwardly religious but inwardly proud, self-righteous, and spiritually blind.
Jesus said:
“You clean the outside of the cup and dish, but inside they are full of extortion and self-indulgence” (Matthew 23:25, NKJV).
The church must be careful not to become a place where people learn how to appear holy without actually surrendering their hearts to God.
We can attend church and remain proud.
We can know Bible prophecy and remain unloving.
We can defend doctrine and remain spiritually dead.
We can condemn the sins of others while excusing our own.
The church must continually return to the prayer of David:
“Search me, O God, and know my heart” (Psalm 139:23, NKJV).
Before we ask what sins the church is tolerating, we must ask what sins we are tolerating in ourselves.
The Church Must Not Become a Place of Approval
There is a difference between a church that welcomes sinners and a church that approves sin.
Jesus welcomed sinners.
He ate with sinners.
He touched the unclean.
He forgave the guilty.
But He also called people to repentance.
He told Zacchaeus that salvation had come to his house, and Zacchaeus responded by turning away from his old life (Luke 19:1–10).
Jesus did not say, “You are accepted exactly as you are, and nothing needs to change.”
He said, in effect, “My grace has found you—and now your life is going to be different.”
The church should be the safest place in the world for a sinner to confess sin and seek forgiveness.
But it should not be the safest place in the world for sin to hide.
We Must Begin With Ourselves
It is easy to identify the sins of the culture.
It is much more difficult to identify the sins we have become comfortable with.
Perhaps the church has tolerated:
- Sexual immorality while condemning other sins.
- Pornography while pretending it is a private matter.
- Racism while speaking about Christian love.
- Greed while calling material success a blessing.
- Gossip while claiming to be concerned.
- Abuse while protecting respected leaders.
- Pride while defending correct doctrine.
- Anger while condemning violence.
- Hypocrisy while demanding holiness from others.
- Political hatred while claiming to defend truth.
The question is not merely, “What is the world doing wrong?”
The question is:
“What has the church learned to tolerate?”
And even more personally:
“What have I learned to tolerate in my own life?”
Love Must Tell the Truth
Biblical love is not passive approval.
Love warns.
Love confronts.
Love corrects.
Love forgives.
Love restores.
Love protects.
Love hopes.
Love tells the truth because it cares about what happens to people.
A doctor who discovers a life-threatening disease does not say, “I love my patient, so I will not tell him.”
A parent who sees a child walking toward danger does not say, “I accept my child, so I will remain silent.”
And a church that truly loves people cannot remain silent about the things that destroy their relationship with God.
But we must remember that the purpose of confronting sin is not to humiliate people.
The purpose is restoration.
Paul wrote:
“Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness” (Galatians 6:1, NKJV).
The goal is not to win an argument.
The goal is not to prove that we are better.
The goal is to help people find freedom in Jesus Christ.
Conclusion
The church must never become so afraid of being called judgmental that it becomes incapable of making moral distinctions.
Jesus did not call us to approve everything.
He called us to love God, love people, and obey the truth.
We must not call evil good.
We must not call good evil.
We must not excuse sin in the name of love.
And we must not use truth as an excuse to stop loving people.
The church needs both courage and compassion.
We need the courage to say, “This is sin.”
We need the humility to say, “I am also a sinner in need of grace.”
And we need the love to say, “There is forgiveness, healing, and new life in Jesus Christ.”
The gospel is not that God approves of everything we do.
The gospel is that God loves us so much that He refuses to leave us enslaved to sin.
Christ did not die to make sin acceptable.
He died to make sinners new.
Prayer
Father in heaven,
Give us the courage to stand firmly upon Your Word, even when Your truth is unpopular or uncomfortable. Keep us from calling sin acceptable simply because our culture approves of it. Help us not to compromise biblical truth in the name of love.
But, Lord, also protect us from becoming harsh, proud, judgmental, or self-righteous. Remind us that we are sinners saved by grace. Help us to speak truth with humility and compassion.
Show us the sins we have learned to tolerate in our churches, our families, and our own hearts. Give us courage to confront abuse, injustice, immorality, greed, gossip, hatred, pride, and every other thing that dishonors You.
Help us to love people without approving sin, and to stand for truth without becoming cruel. Teach us to restore those who fall with gentleness, protect the vulnerable, defend the oppressed, and point every sinner—including ourselves—to Jesus Christ.
Search our hearts, cleanse us from every hidden sin, and make Your church a place where truth is proclaimed, grace is experienced, sinners are welcomed, and lives are transformed.
In the name of Jesus, our Savior and Redeemer, we pray. Amen.
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